Pride is an amazing day to celebrate the progress we've made. it's also a day to remember that we still don't have national laws preventing discrimination against lgbtq people, how many trans sisters of color we've lost this year and how little we've talked about it, how many of our q***r siblings are stuck in jail for charges they don't have the resources to fight. like many eccentric women before me i've been raised and raised up by lgbtq communities. art, emotion, passion, fight -- i learned these things from legacies of lgbtq creators and activists, in history and the most intimate spheres of my life. that gives me pride. image: mother of all mothers flawless sabrina 🖤🌈
Been grappling with the feminine, with presentation, with beauty- what makes me feel desirable? what makes me feel strong enough to fight against the current administration, fight hard for women and their rights? what makes me feel like my own babysitter in 1993?
Home getting a little pick me up thanks to custom curtain by @greer_lankton_archives_museum & lamp by @amtendler 🖤 it's more important than ever to feel safe and self-actualized where you live. the poodles agree.
A lot of you have been asking where lamby is these days since he's always been the star of my gram and i've been posting pics of my poodle girls. well, you know honesty is my jam but this one has been really heartbreaking to talk about. but i feel i have to share that last march, after four years of challenging behavior and aggression that could not be treated with training or medication or consistent loving dog ownership, lamby went to live at an amazing professional facility in los angeles @matt_thezendog where an awesome person named @therealdanishay (who is educated in a rescue dog's specific trauma) loves him so hard. lamby suffered terrible abuse as a pup that made having him in a typical home environment dangerous to him and others- we needed to be responsible to ourselves, our neighbors and especially our beloved boy. jack and i will miss him forever but sometimes when you love something you have to let it go (especially when it requires tetanus shots and stitches.) someday i'll really write about the pain and relief of letting lamby go off and really be lamby, biting and peeing in his own mouth and all. there were so many lessons in it, about forgiving myself and loving with an open palm and giving in to a larger plan. shout out to @jennikonner for listening to endless hours of lamby pain, and especially my partner @jackantonoff for loving him even when he ruined floors and couches and our life. jack knows what lamby means to me and he let me come to the decision in my own time even when it made his days challenging. susan & karen will never be my first loves, but they are fuzzy and hilarious stuffing for the hole lamby left and we cherish them deeply ❤️#lamby#thefirstcutisthedeepest#foreverlamb ps if you have a similar situation, please know its possible to responsibly re-home your rescue rather than sending them back into the shelter system. it can require patience, diligence and often a financial contribution but there are solutions that leave everyone happy and safe. you will always have been your dog's first stop outside shelter life and that's beautiful.