The moments that define your #life are often moments that define #resiliency. they are moments of self-conflict, and in essence, moments of self-reflection. situations that yield #humility can be situations of internal #chaos. but if chaos begets chaos, then the #truth will set you #free. it is not the #trials and #tribulatiins that define you. it is what you do in the wake of #conflict that solidifies your #legacy. get up, stay up, and stay #woke. 💡
“peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” -ronald reagan “i don’t know any perfect people. so, we are all allowed to be human and say and do unhelpful things, at times.
however, relationships researcher, john gottman, from the gottman institute in seattle, says that we need to be gentle when dealing with our frustrations with loved ones and colleagues. he says that while there are no perfect relationships, ongoing criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling and contempt are particularly destructive.
contrasted to this, people in healthy relationships, even during times of frustration and conflict, tend to be five times more helpful than negative in their interactions.
what are these helpful interactions during a conflict?
here are 7 positive messages we communicate through our words and actions, even when we are frustrated with others:
1) let’s work this out
2) can you help me to understand?
3) i’m sorry
4) i know you were not meaning to be hurtful
5) this is what i would prefer
6) i am willing to do my part
7) i’m committed to this relationship
it is important for all of us to reduce the hurtful interactions and increase the helpful ones in relationships when there are difficulties.
In the morning, after i put on a well fitting yet completely unnecessary suit, i sip my tea, stare out the window, and ask myself, “am i truly the only one? why am i alone in this? where are the others? how could no one else hear yammy? not yanny. not laurel. but yammy...” i must walk this road alone. i will forge my own path. i am the master of my ears. i am the captain of my hearing. #conflict#deepthought#lonely#individual#portraitphotography#yammy 🍠
The balochistan liberation army is a baloch nationalist rebel group based in pakistan and afghanistan. since 2004 the bla has waged an armed struggle against the state of pakistan for equal rights, autonomy and self-determination for the baloch people in pakistan, who have been subjected to repression for decades. the bla mainly operates in balochistan, the largest province of pakistan where it carries out attacks against the pakistan armed forces. the baloch liberation army became publicly known during the summer of 2000, after it claimed credit for a series of attacks on pakistani authorities.
In the morning a visit from former president alvaro uribe investigated for his role in two massacres committed in ituango by paramilitaries and the m****r of human rights defender jesus maria valle, and in the afternoon farmers from the most abandoned rural sectors of ituango march in defense of their rights. | por la mañana visita del expresidente investigado por su parte en masacres en el municipio y por la tarde campesinos marchando reclamando sus derechos #everydaymacondo#humanrights#conflict#memoria