dissociating when triggered by intimacy: a guide to check in, when checking out
dissociation makes perfect sense when folks have been abused, silenced, socialized a particular way, oppressed, and constantly have broken boundaries, or don't even know what their boundaries are.
consent is not talked about often enough, especially as young brown kids growing up in a mediocre white conservative town. we were two teenagers with hormones, who lacked the emotional intelligence to check in and read the situation all together. however, the reality was that our socialization, intersection of identities, and past experiences influenced our responses in that moment.
. . . victim blaming and victim shaming are hella prevalent in our culture . . .
to this day, i have not gotten this s**t figured out, our society wasnt created for brown, black, indigenous q***r folks with mental and physical disabilities to self-advocate and engage in difficult dialogue about being triggered by s****l intimacy and how partners, lovers, f**k buddies, friends, and strangers can support and assist during those episodes of being triggered and of dissociation.
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Being seen as competent, professional, successful, and good at what i do has long been both a source of pride and a source of rigidity that often prevented me from taking risks and growing in new directions.
our culture is bizarre in that we glorify certain kinds of risk while simultaneously punishing and judging those who dare to take them and fail. ..
but messing up and falling down are usually where our greatest learning happens - especially when it's something requiring a great deal of creativity like art, comedy, writing, or visionary work.
as a stand-up comedian, @divadelux has some awesome things to say about taking risks, messing up, and moving in the direction of growth as an artist. ..
where have you been so afraid of failing or being rejected that you stopped yourself from even trying? and when has an epic mistake yielded something magical down the road?
danielle is so funny and i'm delighted she's a part of this year's explore more summit. it's a free online conference that starts april 23rd and runs for 10 days. there are 28 yummy, rich, fascinating interviews, plus if you pre-register for the conference, you'll get free daily workbooks for the entire conference. join us and explore your more: exploremoresummit.com
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