It is a privilege that i get to walk down the street and not have someone harass me for my gender identity. it is a privilege that i have access to adequate and affordable health insurance. it is a privilege to be loved and accepted by my family, friends, and overall community. not all trans/ gnc people get to live the life that i do, and because of that their lives have been cut short. ⠀
today, we mourn the loss of the 22 beautiful lives taken this year, most of them black women of trans experience, but we also fight. fight for the right to serve, to feel safe walking down the street, to feel safe in school and work, to use the bathroom of our choice, the right to affordable and proper healthcare, and the right to love freely and openly. today is transgender day of remembrance and i am honored to partner with @phenomenal. ⠀
tee benefits @tgijustice which works inside and outside of prisons to create a united family in the struggle for survival and freedom. #tdov 💙💗🤍💗💙⠀
i’m sitting here, shaking as i write this. i’ve thought about whether or not to post this for a very long time, and recent events and a talk from my incredible mother has led me to take this step.
i’m a trans woman. there, i said it out loud. for so long, from friends, strangers and work colleagues i’ve tried so hard to keep it under wraps and not talk about it — to want to be seen as society as just regular old ava without a flashing red sign hanging over my head. but i’ve realised that to bring about change, a person has to be openly authentic and honest with the world.
i’ve been incredibly lucky in my life and have been blessed with an overwhelming sense of support from all avenues — my family have accepted and loved me; being who i truly am has only brought us all closer and helped to nurture a fantastic relationship with all of them. friends in my life who know have been kind, understanding, keen to learn and have too been changed by what i’ve gone through and my story.
i receive messages all the time from trans and other lgbtqia+ people who have thanked me, asked for advice and praised how i’ve been authentic and proud about who i am; but the truth is that i hadn’t. i hid it from certain people in my life, and i’ve realised that whilst i’ve been blessed with the support of all of my loved ones, there are people out there who do not see or recognise me for the strong, confident woman that i am.
As we remember those individuals lost to trans-violence, and i read all of the posts that have been shared, i realize i am lucky for many reasons as i transition. i have only just started the transitioning process, and i am lucky that i am a canadian transitioning in canada where trans-people have rights. i am also blessed to be a nurse employed by a field of work that is open to and in support of transgender people. i am lucky to have worked with and earned the respect of colleagues that have accepted me with open arms. i am lucky to be in the day and age that i am transitioning. as i have read the statistics of the violence against transgender people and their lack of employment it has made me realize i should be thankful for a lot of things, and i am very thankful, but have heavy feelings of woe for all those who have suffered before me. as it is those people before me that have made this world more open for me, and created this world i am in and thankful for. your suffering has not been for not, you are all heroes in my eyes. may your suffering be no more.❤ #crossdresser#crossdressing #cd #xdresser#xdressing #boytogirl #boyswillbegirls#lgbtq#bi#pride #gorgeous #beauty #transgender#transgenderdayofrememberance#transformation#mtf#innerme #girl #makeup, #transmodel#lips#dressing#comingout #genderfluid #loveyourself#expressyourself#covergirl
I need to remember, there is still love, joy and beauty in this world. it’s taken time, but little by little as i open myself to it, it is there. my silent grief is the badge i wear for our deep love my beloved and i shared for so many years yeah, love hurts, without it, we are nothing. i will continue to carry my silent grief for as long as i have to. i know that it will be with me until my dying day, but i am learning how to live life again. in the end, nothing is ever so lost, that it cannot be found again, and no tears have ever been cried, that weren't worth the joy that came before.
Hey y’all! i’m back from the dead, as you saw from my last post. since it’s transgender remembrance day, i’ve decided to post a happy picture from a tumblr post! transgender folks, such as myself, have to live in fear and/or worry if they’ll get hurt by people they know, or anyone they disclose their gender to, and they also have to deal with the fear of being disowned by their family and friends. trans men, trans women and trans nonbinary folks really have it rough in the world, with a law saying they can be fired for being trans, the fear of being beaten or killed if someone is “frightened” by finding out they’re trans, the fear of being left behind by those they loved because they don’t agree or the fear of never being able to come out in the first place and living in a body that isn’t theirs. we should all love one another, love our brothers, not just our cis-brothers, and our sisters, not just our cis-ters and our nongender conforming siblings, instead of tying them to one gender or another. we’re here for a short time, not a long time, so let’s try to respect everyone and love everyone for who they are, not who they used to be or who you want them to be. .
Today, as many know, is transgender day of remembrance. today we honor and remember the trans folks who were taken from us with hatred and violence. there’s no way to know how many, and i’m sure there and thousands unreported, undiscovered or misidentified by authorities. please hold space for them, and for us who are still here. it’s also trans day of resilience. i’ve never thought of myself as a resilient person, but i now see that it is something so ingrained in my identity that i’ve only just not noticed. resilience is good but exhausting. i want to exist without fear, without judgement, with recognition for the strong, stubborn, resilient woman that i am. until that day we push on. i call on everyone to speak up, be heard! live us openly, stand up for us when it counts, make a place for us at the table of discourse and hear us! i love you, i’m still here, i hope you are too. #tdor2019
Today is transgender day of remembrance. honestly a year ago i would never have even known about this day or even what hardships a transgender person faces on a day to day basis. i have learned so many things about what it means to be transgender by reading your stories. in most of my life experiences, i surrounded myself with like minded people and life was good. lgbtq was just an acronym that was for others and not in my circle.
in this year, i have struggled with what my change has meant to me but knowing there have been others out there that have gone before me and many have paid a huge price to just be themselves. my selfishness of wrapping my world around my beliefs and forgetting there are people out there that need support and love has been enlightening. i hope in the coming years i learn to love more, judge less and be there for others. hope you can join me in that pursuit. be strong and be you! .
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Transgender day of remembrance is today and even though you've seen countless posts about it, i couldn't go without mentioning it. today is a day where we remember all those poor souls who lost there lives for being themselves, these same souls inspire me everyday to not give up hope! it should inspire all of us to fight for our rights and fight to be who we truly are.
i'd also be lying if i told you i wasn't scared of the same fate these poor people went through. especially for someone who hasn't come out yet. but i tell myself everyday that these transfolks didn't let anything stand in their way and they were d**n brave for it! these are the types of people to look up to, to the ones who know the risks and still take that leap to be themselves. that goes for anyone past, present or future, and to those of you still alive and to all that have passed. #trans#transgirl#transgirls#tgirl#transgender#transwoman#transisbeautiful#transbeauty#m2f#mtf#girlslikeus#mtftransgender#transgendergirl#thisiswhattranslookslike#prehrt#ts#transgirlnextdoor#transdayofremembrance
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10 year challenge is so god dam funny to look back on cause plot twist im a girl now, but this was about the time i started to question myself and my identity as a person. it let to my worst years, i was miserable and suffering in silence. but im not who i was 10 years ago. im so glad to be where i am now happier and healthier mentally. #transgender#transisbeautiful#transgirl#mtf
November 20 marks transgender day of remembrance (tdor) – which is a day inspired by rita hester, a black trans woman who was murdered in 1998.
the day of remembrance was founded almost one year after the anniversary of her death by trans activist gwendolyn ann smith.
in 2018, advocates tracked at least 26 deaths of at least transgender or gender non-conforming people in the u.s. due to fatal violence, the majority of whom were black transgender women.
in 2019, advocates have tracked the deaths of at least 24 transgender or gender non-conforming people in the u.s. an estimated 287 additional transgender or gender non-conforming people have been murdered around the world – estimated because, unfortunately, the deaths are difficult to track and are likely under-reported.
today, we honor and remember our transgender and gender non-conforming community members:
Just some simple fresh pasta with bolognese i cooked today. on days like today, i am so thankful for these simple things.. like cooking for my girlfriend, who comes back to me every day safely.
we have the privilege to live our life as our true selfs and not fear persecution or that our loved one doesn't come home because she happened to be assigned the wrong gender at birth. i can't imagine how horrible that would be.
so many in our community however are not so lucky. they are denied basic human rights, marginalized, killed... 331 this year alone. many of them women of color.
everyone of us deserves to be safe, happy and loved. no one should fear for their wellbeing, because of who they are.
f*ck transphobia, stay safe❤🌺