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If you have an awesome family of origin where there are healthy boundaries and you feel safe and at home, that’s awesome. do whatever makes sense for you. ⁣
the next few months are supposedly the most “wonderful time of the year,” where all the songs and images around us talk about this notion of “home.” ⁣

i’ll be home for christmas…⁣
home for the holidays…⁣
i’m going home to see my family…⁣
my family really wants me to come home for a visit…⁣

however, this time of year is also when people are highly susceptible to higher levels of anxiety and depression than any other time of year.⁣

so what’s going on?⁣

home is an abstract concept. once we grow and become adults, home is a challenging idea to pin down. is it with our chosen family? with our friends? is it a geographical location? is it where we came from? is it where we are going?⁣

one of the most devastating consequences of trauma is that it causes us to feel unsafe and not at home in our own bodies. if we do not feel safe internally, any external search for “home” is going to have the potential of creating distressing symptoms or an unhealthy attachment. ⁣

if you do not feel safe emotionally, physically, or in any other way, and if you have the choice, consider the idea of not returning to your family of origin for the holidays. instead, focus on what feels safe, safer, or less threatening. ⁣💕❤️⭐️ #trauma #traumarecovery #holidaystress #holidaydepression #holidayanxiety #traumainformed #traumahealing #toxicfamily #narcissistmother #toxicparents #boundaries #healthyboundaries #settingboundaries #familyoforigin #besselvanderkolk #thebodykeepsthescore #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #familydrama #dramafree #traumafree #healingfromabuse #healingfromwithin #healingfromtrauma #internalfamilysystems #innervoice #holidaystress #stressrelief #stressedout #anxiety #anxietyattack
48 910 1 weeks ago
If you have an awesome family of origin where there are healthy boundaries and you feel safe and at home, that’s awesome. do whatever makes sense for you. ⁣
the next few months are supposedly the most “wonderful time of the year,” where all the songs and images around us talk about this notion of “home.” ⁣

i’ll be home for christmas…⁣
home for the holidays…⁣
i’m going home to see my family…⁣
my family really wants me to come home for a visit…⁣

however, this time of year is also when people are highly susceptible to higher levels of anxiety and depression than any other time of year.⁣

so what’s going on?⁣

home is an abstract concept. once we grow and become adults, home is a challenging idea to pin down. is it with our chosen family? with our friends? is it a geographical location? is it where we came from? is it where we are going?⁣

one of the most devastating consequences of trauma is that it causes us to feel unsafe and not at home in our own bodies. if we do not feel safe internally, any external search for “home” is going to have the potential of creating distressing symptoms or an unhealthy attachment. ⁣

if you do not feel safe emotionally, physically, or in any other way, and if you have the choice, consider the idea of not returning to your family of origin for the holidays. instead, focus on what feels safe, safer, or less threatening. ⁣💕❤️⭐️ #trauma #traumarecovery #holidaystress #holidaydepression #holidayanxiety #traumainformed #traumahealing #toxicfamily #narcissistmother #toxicparents #boundaries #healthyboundaries #settingboundaries #familyoforigin #besselvanderkolk #thebodykeepsthescore #cptsd #cptsdrecovery #familydrama #dramafree #traumafree #healingfromabuse #healingfromwithin #healingfromtrauma #internalfamilysystems #innervoice #holidaystress #stressrelief #stressedout #anxiety #anxietyattack
48 910 1 weeks ago
Lack of safety - feeling safe and secure in the love from your parent - can have incredibly deep impact that you may not even realize is affecting you as an adult.
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#narcissistmother #narcissistfather #raisedbynarcissists #raisedbyhijackals #abuse
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#emotionalabuse
#verbalabuse
0 14 2 weeks ago
These two arrived yesterday and perfect timing for a sunday morning read with a cup of tea.

what book are you reading at the moment?
happy sunday ☕📚☕ sarah x
1 14 3 weeks ago
My ex is always 3-4 steps ahead of me. no way i can get the truth in there because she knows what it is and has already spun it into a lie that makes me look bad. can’t compete so i no longer will. only way to “win” that game. #repost @fuck_narcissism with @get_repost #parentalalienation #parentalalienationsurvivor #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationawareness #narcissistmother
0 2 3 weeks ago
Always praying my children get to this point. but i am not wasting my life waiting on them to come back to center. #parentalalienation #parentalalienationsurvivor #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationawareness #narcissistmother
0 1 3 weeks ago
So true. i never would have guessed she was this horrific before the divorce. #parentalalienation #parentalalienationsurvivor #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationawareness #narcissistmother
1 13 3 weeks ago
Sadly for my children and me, i had children with a viciously vindictive parent. thankfully she has been my ex for over 10 years but my now “adult” children still can’t see it. she has altered their memories to the point where their entire childhoods have been rewritten painting me as a horrific parent. she told me right after she filed for divorce that she “would make sure this was the worst thing they ever experienced”. she did that and more. #parentalalienation #parentalalienationsurvivor #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationawareness #narcissistmother
0 2 3 weeks ago
Parental alienation is real. i know this personally. my ex wife is the grand master of it. #parentalalienation #parentalalienationsurvivor #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationawareness #narcissistmother
0 1 3 weeks ago
I saw this over on facebook. but it hit home. it’s hard not to hold the enablers accountable for allowing the parent to behave as they do. but you then have to remember it’s unlikely they are aware of the full truth, and have only received the edited version that suits the other persons narrative. #greyrockmethod #familycourt #stepparent #childrensneedscomefirst #childrensneeds #childrenneedfathers #childrenneedbothparents #childrenneedmothers #narcissist #narc #narcissistmother #narcissistawareness #parentalalienation #parentalalienationawareness #familycourtuk #cafcass #socialservices
0 15 3 weeks ago
Treat time!! comment below anything. any comment will enter you into a drawing for this dope a*s unicorn 🦄 headband and a magic wand!!
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would love to hear how everything went, or how you stayed sober, what tools you used anything anything that you love me, how many days of recovery you have, how you implemented your #imperfectionpractice what loaded thing happened that bit you in the b**t etc etc etc. i’ll do the drawing first thing in the morning on november 2nd! so you can comment any time before 7am on the 2nd to qualify. .
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love you!! mwah!😘 hope you win and i’ll see you in the comments, bitch!!
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#happyhalloween2019 #halloween2019 #stayingsober #foodaddictionrecovery #brightlineeating #soberaf #foodaddict #edwarrior #edwarrior #recoverywarriors #recoverywin #recoveryisreal #addictionrecovery #bulimiarecovery #bulimiafighter #bulimiafree #anorexiafighter #anorexiarecovering #bingeeatingdisorderrecovery #bingeeatingrecovery #codependency #codependencyrecovery #codependentnomore #narcissistawareness #narcissistmother #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #depressionsupport #anxietyrelief
19 19 3 weeks ago
They have been caught lying... *plot twist* the only person who has committed perjury is the person declaring this to the world. the person who submitted less than 20 documents to the court as evidence. compared to the truth teller who submitted 50+. anyone else want to scream from the rooftops about the injustice? #injustice #familycourt #stepparent #familycourtuk #liar #narcissist #narcissistmother #narcissisticmother #narcissisticparent #perjury #cafcass #socialservices
0 4 3 weeks ago
What they do and what they say they do are totally different! lie often enough and you believe your own lies. they only need to a couple of people who don’t know the truth to believe them and their lies are validated. it’s hard to know when they are the mistress of manipulation that they are not the victim but the perpetrator!! #narcissisticmother #narcissistmother #narcissisticabuse #narcissists #narcissistsurvivor #delusional #liars #manipulation #gaslighting #narcissisticmothersabotagesdaughter
0 2 3 weeks ago
// where does self doubt come from? //
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have you ever doubted your memory because someone else told you that you remembered wrong?
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when this happens to you constantly as a kid, you start trusting other people more than yourself.
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you're not remembering wrong.
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you can trust yourself.
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leave a “yes” for self awareness. .
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#selfdoubt #selfesteem #selfworth #selfawareness #youareenough .
#selfcare #selflove #youareworthy #youaregood #yougotthis .
#trustyourgut #trustyourintuition #trustyourself #trustyourfeelings #trustyourbody .
#setboundaries #setlimits #healthyboundaries #sethealthyboundaries #boundaries .
#covertnarcissist #toxicfamilysystem #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #narcissistmother .
#codependent #codependentnomore #codependency #narcopath #takebackyourlink
2 16 4 weeks ago
// how does low self esteem begin? //
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kids don't start out with low self esteem. .

covert narcissists create codependent kids.
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for fun.
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what could be a better evil game than create self doubt in a kid?
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covert abuse is subtle. call it out.
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build yourself back up.
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#selfdoubt #selfesteem #selfworth #selfawareness #youareenough .
#selfcare #selflove #youareworthy #youaregood #yougotthis .
#trustyourgut #trustyourintuition #trustyourself #trustyourfeelings #trustyourbody .
#setboundaries #setlimits #healthyboundaries #sethealthyboundaries #boundaries .
#covertnarcissist #toxicfamilysystem #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #narcissistmother .
#codependent #codependentnomore #codependency #narcopath #takebackyourlink
0 14 4 weeks ago
// how does low self esteem happen? //
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kids don't start out with low self esteem. .
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covert narcissists create codependent kids.
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for fun.
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what could be a better evil game than creating self doubt in a kid?
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covert abuse is subtle. call it out.
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leave a 👋 if you are ready to trust yourself again.
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#selfdoubt #selfesteem #selfworth #selfawareness #youareenough .
#selfcare #selflove #youareworthy #youaregood #yougotthis .
#trustyourgut #trustyourintuition #trustyourself #trustyourfeelings #trustyourbody .
#setboundaries #setlimits #healthyboundaries #sethealthyboundaries #boundaries .
#covertnarcissist #toxicfamilysystem #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople #narcissistmother .
#codependent #codependentnomore #codependency #narcopath #takebackyourlink
2 24 4 weeks ago
I've been through several psychologists and therapists. my parents made me go so they could "fix" me. every single time, the professional has told my parents that they are the issue. my parents deny it and take me away from that professional. after some time they sent me to another. same shit. then another than another. they never accept that they are in the wrong... #narcissistfather #narcissism #narcissist #narcissistmother #narcissistparent #narcissistsurvivor #narcissistabuse #emotionalabuse #psychologicalabuse #manipulation #emotuonalmanipulation #trauma #toxicmother #toxicfather #toxicparent #toxicfamily #toxicparent #abusiveparents #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #npd #psychology #therapy
5 60 4 weeks ago
Inside of you lives the loving inner mother you so desperately crave. ⁣⁣
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your loving inner mother is a part of you that is wise, tender, supportive, compassionate and nurturing. this part is available to you at all times. ⁣⁣
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this is the relationship that needs your attention. ⁣⁣
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this is the relationship that will soften your heart, soothe your soul and set your spirit free. 🕊⁣⁣
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this part of you is right here waiting. don’t you want to meet her?⁣⁣
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curious? drop a ❤️ if you want to learn more🕊🕊
12 50 5 weeks ago
We love this person. your partner, sibling, friend, coworker, parent, and relative. yet there's this uneasy feeling. the dread. spending time with them is so exhausting and draining. my top 3 red flags 🚩that something is not right and it's time to self reflect.

ask yourself these 3 questions and be honest with yourself. it's their choice to be hurtful and harmful. it's your choice to tolerate it or break the cycle. it was my wake up call. i needed to protect my health, happiness, and safety. my life has changed and it can for you too. want to break the cycle? get my free guide in bio and get started on your journey to healing. you do not need to tolerate harmful and hurtful behavior.
4 20 last month
In the long term, having a depressed mother could lead to neurological problems and psychiatric disorders. children whose mothers were anxious during pregnancy have differences in certain brain structures. sandiman et al november 2011
#depressedmothers #childhoodtrauma #narcissistmother #lawofattraction #selfcare
0 2 last month
It hurts when we continue to hold on to the person that has already moved on with their life. you are left to pick up the pieces and the damage that's been done. watching netflix to drown out the sorrows and to drink our problems away. eating and getting out of bed becomes a chore. it feels like life has no meaning with no hope.
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i've had those moments that felt so dark and depressing. it was so hard. looking back i can't believe how much i went through and overcome. i want to tell you your life is not worth losing over the one who hurt you. things will get better if you believe it will and work on healing yourself. the relationship is gone but you are a better and stronger person because of it. you are not weak. you are amazing.

want to heal from toxic relationships? get my free guide in bio and get started on your journey to be free. i'm passionate about what i do because i've been in your shoes. i am no longer stuck and living my purpose that it brings me so much peace, love, and happiness that i want for you too.
3 22 last month
Toxic is toxic. just because they are "family" doesn't mean it's okay to justify and tolerate abuse. sweeping things under the rug and being treated poorly is not okay. just because that's "just the way they are." or that you have to be "stuck" because they are family. it causes so much damage when you believe those lies that it's okay to treat you less than you deserved. you are not selfish and unloving. nor is it your guilt to carry. yes, it's true people won't understand your choice to leave but you don't need their validation for doing what's best for you. you know your family. you lived with them. you know how it affects your health, safety, and happiness. it's your choice to walk away or tolerate it. #breakthecycle 📸 @positivelypresent
5 47 last month
This used to bother me. knowing that hcbm was running her mouth to anyone and everyone who’d listen. it made me so angry that people were not getting the truth - that someone out there thinks me or my husband are the ones who are taking her kids away from her unjustly. but after many years of watching her dig her own grave, not remembering her own lies and making herself out to be a fool, i just shrug it off. let her say what she wants to say. misery loves company. people who believe her b******t are not the people i want or need to prove anything too. good people will see thru her lies. and if they have concerns or questions, they can come to my husband or i and ask.
i do not need to prove anything. (except in court - believe it or not, that’s the easy part). .
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