Love is f*****g scary, isn’t it? 🤦🏼♀️ especially when you have to ask someone those dreadful questions that could potentially rip your heart to shreds.
“how do you feel?”
“are you falling for me too?”
“are you happy here?”
“do you see a future with me?”
“are you dating other people?”
“is my heart safe with you?”
“is this too much?”
“am i too much?”
just k**l me now.
being vulnerable is usually easy for me (just look at my ig 🤷🏼♀️), but i struggle admitting my feelings to men. that’s my achilles heel. i become paralyzed, can’t even speak.
the last guy i dated was fearless in telling me how he felt and encouraged me to do the same. he‘d say, “no games. whenever you want to see me, just tell me.” i was in awe of his transparency.
then one morning, i did. i woke up and wanted to see him.
but to actually tell him that? i think i’d rather tell a police officer that i stole a snickers bar from a gas station when i was 6-years-old (true) and serve a night in jail for it.
but i knew i had to tell him. this was a test. the “can i overcome my own bullshit?” test.
i drafted a text —
and it took me staring at it for 27 minutes, overanalyzing and rearranging every word, sending it to 4 friends for opinions, analyzing it even more, and finally giving myself a pep talk before quickly pressing the send button and throwing my phone in the trash.
“morning. i’m guessing you’re surfing right now. woke up missing you 😬. are you off today?”
wow, what a text, lauren.
still, i squealed, “did i just tell a guy that i miss him? 🤯 who am i?”
he responded right away, we hung out that day, i survived being vulnerable. (our “situationship” didn’t survive overall but that’s not the point).
the point is that even though i’ve thoroughly enjoyed casually dating and focusing on my own growth/healing, i’m slowly getting closer to opening my heart again after my divorce.
i’m still scared of love — terrified — but i think i’m more scared of missing out on love, just because of fear.
we are social beings. we exist for each other. we are designed for companionship. we are made for love. but you can’t have love without vulnerability.
and i do want love. 💛 xo.
Take time to listen to people with different abilities, beliefs, and life experiences.
as bill nye says, “everyone you meet knows something you don’t.” we are here to help each other learn and grow 🌱
10 hours ago
Them… “you’ve changed.”
me… “thank you.”
It’s a beautiful way to honor their legacy 💙
It’s so d**n simple. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
when it comes to health there’s the typical talk of “eat balanced, train 5 x week, get 8 hours of sleep” blah blah blah... all of which have a place in life of course. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
but there’s such simple layers to this that we all tend to forget. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👇🏻the small habits and choices that make the biggest difference. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
let a big glass of water be what wakes you up and starts your day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
walk whenever you can.
park at the back of the parking lot. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
stop looking at your phone 15-30 minutes before bed. do not bring it with you when you go to sleep ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
relax your shoulders, unclench your jaw, soften your face. release the tension in your body. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
if you don’t want to go somewhere, do something, say yes, be with someone etc etc... don’t. so simple. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
if you do want to do something, go somewhere, say yes, be with someone etc etc.... friggin do it! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
what would you add to this list?
‘i can accept failure. i cannot accept not trying.’ 😱
failure is one of those things that some of us have a really hard time with. there are times you don’t want to even try because you are afraid to fail. are you really afraid to fail tho? or are you afraid of being judged by others if you fail??! 🤯
the reality is, if you fail.... will others even know? (sure sometimes people will, however most of the time it your own goal.) 🤔
i recently ran my 3rd half marathon. i was super pumped to try to beat my last time. cuz, that’s the goal right.... to get better each time? i got to my last 2 miles or so and knew if i pushed hard enough that i would beat my time. i kept pushing and pushing and was super excited that i had beat my time. once i finished the race i checked my time.... nope, i didn’t beat it! i missed it by only 2 min! i was so disappointed in myself. in my head i kept saying ‘if you would have just pushed a little harder! why didn’t you try harder?’. we all do this right! 🤦♀️ you guys, i ran a fricken half marathon, and i was upset with myself! who does that? the part you don’t know is that i had struggled with severe calf pain for weeks prior to the race. i had cried during some of my training because it hurt, and i didn’t know how to fix it. i tried everything. it got to race day, and i was soooo nervous. i was nervous that i wouldn’t even be able to finish! 😱
now think about this. it’s all about the process. it’s all about pushing ourselves and trying our best! after i finished that race i snapped out of it real quick! i realized how hard i had trained to get to that day. i looked back at how hard i kept pushing myself without giving up! the easy thing to do would have been to stop running and not do the race. i didn’t give up! 👏
Your gift will make room for you! use it and watch god bless you!!!!!! (just a very small clip) some of the awesome ppl and platforms i’ve been so blessed and grateful to be on!!
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Just as it’s important to forgive others who have hurt you, it is equally important to keep forgiving yourself. we are all human and we will keep making mistakes every day, maybe even every hour sometimes! but this is all part of our learning journey. if we sit and dwell on our mistakes, it just takes us into a rut. instead just reflect on what you need to change to avoid the mistake in the future, forgive yourself and move on. #evolve#evolvehana#selfgrowth#lagoswellness#forgiveness
it's important to pause.
self reflections empower your body, mind and soul .
in the chaos of our routines, we fail to listen to ourselves mindfully.
start doing this by deciding to give just 10 minutes in your clock.
spend time with yourself.
talk to yourself , but don't forget to listen deeply and actively.
your body, soul and mind yearn to give you #feedback to nourish you.
follow this for 2 weeks and share your insights on using this tip.
A sunny throwback in beautiful nyc, even though it’s currently raining in la (finally). 😌
i’ve been so h*****n myself, especially recently.
i want to do everything. i want to show up for everyone.
i want to do it all, & i sometimes forget to listen to myself.
often, i feel the need to put everything on my plate & try to make it work - even if it’s not realistic or healthy.
i’m reminding myself that i don’t need to sacrifice my own health or happiness to feel like a good person.
be easy on yourself & pat yourself on the back every once in a while. you’re doing great. 💕
26 minutes ago
People resonate with different images and information at different times. what you may scroll past one day may peak your interest the next 💚
you never know when an opportunity will present itself and something will just click with you. like it’s been in front of you the whole time and then all of a sudden you see it 🌟
we love hearing about people’s journeys in life, stories of their past and what they look forward to in the future.
we love helping people during their journey, being a part of the journey, inviting people to come along ⭐️
timing is everything
maybe you are seeing this at just the right time in your life and are curious to learn more about what exactly we do 🌻
maybe you get the sunday blues and you are wondering if there is something else out there 💫
are you curious? you have nothing to lose!
ask questions, have a conversation, learn something new. 🌟
these are just a few side affects of what we do!
education, self growth, meet new people, travel, have fun, get a paycheck, be part of a community, fulfillment, purpose, help people, inspire, be inspired, d r e a m ✨
oh the possibilities. isn’t it fun to think about #ohtheplacesyoullgo
27 minutes ago
You’re human, you have trauma.
your trauma is an opportunity to uncover your purpose. if you are experiencing loneliness chances are your trauma is running your story. it is telling you a lie.
your brain likes to delete, distort, & generalize.
i see you. i hear you. you matter.
ready to do the work needed to create freedom and connection?
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. it is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. the beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.😍💝🎀
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33 minutes ago
We always say no when we do things that are not necessary for our life, particularly when we do things just to compete with outside voices
do this and you will earn money, you must be living in a big house so that people will see how succesful you are thus it makes you feel empty
36 minutes ago
A little over a year ago my anxiety became too much for me to handle. after my first anxiety attack i finally understood that anxiety was a part of me and a challenge i wasn’t expecting i would ever have to deal with. it got to the point where i could barely leave my house without having an another attack. i had to cut back on a lot, which killed me deep down because i couldn’t be me and do the things that made me who i am. today was the first time in over a year i got my nails done. this may seem like such a normal activity for some people, but to me it was the first time i made an appointment, didn’t cancel it, and made it through without all of my usual anxiety symptoms. to say i’m proud of myself would be an understatement. i have so far to go with my journey because anxiety is still something i deal with on a semi-daily basis but this small example has shown me that i can get through it and so can you. keep practicing your coping techniques and i promise you that we’ll all overcome this together 💛✨
So what is the twin flame telepathic connection? it is when we share the same soul
frequency, allowing us to make telepathic connection with our twin flame, which allows us
to intuitively understand what the other is feeling, thinking or desiring. communicating
with our twin flame is often the sense of wonder, as they are reading our mind, even know
our most intimate thoughts.
7 twin flame telepathic connection signs •ability to know what the other is thinking or feeling. •mental telepathic communication is stimulating.
you have the ability to talk to each other without the need to speak out loud. as
telepathy is much faster, allowing your ideas to be known to each other, even from
distance. when you are able to sense each others energy from distance, this may allow you
to form a deep connection with your twin. •see each others soul.
you both have uncanny knack of delving into each others soul. •sharing dreams together.
twin flames are able to share the same dream, even form a connection within the dream. •having the same interests.
since you are from the same soul, both of you will share similar interests. you may both
enjoy spiritual topics together or even have similar life ambitions together. •you both have the same flaws.
. #unconditionallove#truelove#twinflame#twinflames#twinflametelepathy#twinflamelove#twinflameunion #twinflamejourney#twinflamecollective#twinflameconnection#divinefeminine #divinemasculine#divinecounterparts#soulmate#soulmates#soulconnection#awakening #ascension#selfgrowth
If you’re battling no self love, do me a favor and sit back and analyze your thoughts. ask yourself why you’re not happy, what is it in your life that makes you unhappy? do you need to cut something out? do you need to implement something new?? if you do not come to terms with why you’re unhappy and figure out how you can make changes, you will not find growth. and with change comes growth… how can you make a change in your life today?
if you want a stranger to talk to, someone who’s not going to judge you or criticize you but merely listen and tell you how i over came that self doubt, then reach out to me. my dm is open and i respond fairly quickly. let’s connect. you are not alone! •
oh and thanks @garyvee for all of your daily inspiration. 🌸💕
Joy flower is a young woman on a journey to discover herself, figure out life, and live up to the name she coined for herself. a snippet from her life. ———————————————————————
“sid,” i whispered.
“what’s wrong? are you okay?” he asked when he saw my face.
“a month back, i had applied to a competition organised by google. the winner was going to get an opportunity to design google doodle for children’s day. i just got an email informing me i’ve won.”
“what? that's huge! congratulations joy! i’m so proud of you!”
i didn’t react because i was in disbelief. how could i have won it?
“why aren’t you excited? what is going on?” he shook me and asked again.
“i’m just in shock. i can’t believe i won. i never thought i was good enough to win something this big. i had applied because i had free time. but i actually won! what if people at google realise on seeing my designs later that i’m not as brilliant as they thought?”
sid looked baffled for some reason.
“i can’t believe you. you’re being beyond silly by doubting yourself. you have no idea how engaging and impactful your designs are. you winning the competition isn’t fluke, it happened because you’re brilliant although completely unaware of it, it seems. show me the design you sent them.”
i opened it up on my laptop. the series of illustrations showed a young boy reading a story from his book to a group of trees. he had found out that paper comes from trees and had gone to thank them after school because he loved reading storybooks. the trees asked the boy to read them his favourite story in return.
sid hugged me tight when he saw it. .
“oh joy! you don’t know how talented and creative you are. my heart melted on seeing your illustration. you were meant to win this prize. don’t let self-doubt fool you into believing otherwise. don’t let anyone including your own mind fool you into questioning your own worth, talent, and ability. we’re all more capable than we believe we are but our lack of belief holds us back. you’re so worthy and so awesome, and i’m so proud of you, idiottt!”
he hugged me again. i closed my eyes and believed him. i’m worthy and i’m awesome.
45 minutes ago
I get it, i have been there.
i know what it’s like to feel out of place in your own body. i know what it’s like to try every quick fix on the planet. i know what it’s like to have the urge to step on the scale after every meal. i know what’s it’s like to feel lost and have no idea where to even start. i know what’s it’s like to fake confidence & pretend like i have my c**p together when in reality i was one second away from crying my eyes out. i get it, i have been there.
i may not have it all figured out but i know one thing. changing my body didn’t fix my problems. taking care of myself did. and that change definitely didn’t happen over night. it was a learning process that had to come from mental changes within. i had to stop explaining my life away and face it head on.
has it always been a walk in the park?? no. there are days i still struggle and some days are better than others. growth hurts & it’s definitely not an upward slope. i am not perfect by any means but i know that i am doing the best i can for that day, and to me that means everything 👏
in case you are ready my favorite bootcamp of the year is open for enrollment and i am ready for you!!!
A symbol of perpetual change & evolution 🍁 when i saw these fallen leaves today i couldn’t help but get off the sidewalk and walk in the grass & hear the crunch of the leaves against the earth. i grabbed this one because i admired it’s dark spots, bright colors & the shades in between. standing there i found my life lesson of the day ✨ • #stylingtheseasons#califall#cinotes#fallincalifornia#higherself#evolution#selfgrowth
50 minutes ago
Get assistance and begin couples treatment today!! many issues in relationships are from unspoken expectation. get help talking about the with your s/o.
I am married to someone who does vision boards and is a strong believer in them. i remember the days where i... wouldn’t make fun of him, but i would definitely tell myself, “what the heck, i’m not doing that.”
⏭ to today:
i am right there with him(god knew he was the one for me). i will put pictures of things i dream of as my wallpaper on my phone & he has things posted up on our bulletin board. he has kept all of his dreams up there since he started it and i can’t tell you how many time over the past years i look at and think to myself, “i can’t believe i ever thought this was nuts!? look at how many things he/we have achieved!”
today, i posted these. to motive myself and to push myself out of my comfort zone! not only for me but for my family! my big why. 💛
“growth doesn’t come from being comfortable.”
quote by... someone lol but @marissathomas08 said it tonight on our team call and i’m thankful for hearing it. 🙏🏼
“vulnerability is our most accurate measure of courage.” — brené brown
new blog post is live (link in bio)! i talk about what it really means to be vulnerable. a few highlights: ✨ vulnerability is courage not weakness
✨vulnerability is fighting past shame & fear to let yourself be truly seen & heard ✨vulnerability is when you do something that causes risk or emotional exposure
i want to know: what does vulnerability mean to you? when was the last time you felt vulnerable? ✨
1 hour ago
He is what you need, he may not be what you want.
open your eyes. he is right in front of you, smiling.
Time is an illusion but i want to spend the rest of mine with you 💘
1 hour ago
Speaking at an awesome online dental summit that focuses on 3 main pain points:
success without fulfillment, is failure.
so i encourage you to head over to the “making it happen” facebook group to identify what is stealing your energy, and how to regain it so that you can enjoy life with those you love the most! link in bio ✨
tag 3 friends in the comments and i’ll add you to my “close friends” list!
1 hour ago
We’re meant for this..for these challenges and blessings. go get it! 📸: @onehispanic
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5 week live online workshop!
each week we will work on different major chakras, doing healing and shadow work utilizing guided meditation and several healing modalities.
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doors to the class close november 30th and we start december 2nd.
“life is too short,” a saying that we have probably heard of. ever think about why life isn’t designed to be long though? i have a feeling it has to do with enjoying the moment and making the most of the time we’re blessed with...